AVOIDING MARITAL ACCIDENT

Marriage is not a promise to perpetually feel in love, but a promise to continually choose love. This choice is a deliberate decision, not an emotion. While love encompasses emotions, it is primarily a decision that guides and controls those emotions. Loving your spouse only when they are 'loveable' is a recipe for marital disaster, much like a car accident can have devastating consequences. A strong marriage isn't one without issues, but one that handles issues wisely. 

The key to a successful marriage lies in managing problems, not trying to 'cure' them. Every great relationship is managed, and attempting to change your partner's inherent traits is futile. Developing the capacity to manage relationships, including marriage, is crucial. 

Remember, your spouse's negative behavior is not your responsibility, but your response is. Blame is a sign of immaturity, and marital blame leads to marital stagnation. 

By choosing to love your spouse, even when they seem unlovable, and handling issues with wisdom, you can build a stronger marriage. Learn to manage priorities, behaviors, perceptions, and differences, and never attack what makes your partner unique - manage it instead. Let's put an end to marital accidents and cultivate healthy, thriving relationships