BEFORE YOU PROPOSE TO HER

BEFORE YOU PROPOSE TO HER!

Hear me brothers,

No engagement should last more than 6- 8 months.

It usually takes about that time to plan a good wedding, except you both want to fill a stadium at your reception.

Anything more than that should be caused by a delay in either your parent's disagreement, or maybe unforseen circumstances such as health, travel, academic demands, etc.

I MEAN A REALISTIC CIRCUMSTANCE!

Insufficient funds to host host wedding does not count as a realistic circumstance, you have the option of a small wedding party, an organised court wedding, or a church blessing. Unless again, you want to make dresses for the 200 bridesmaids you have always dreamt of having at your wedding.

There is nothing like studying her in courtship to know her better, that is something you should have effectively done before you proposed.

A proposal simply means you have done all your compatibility test, checks and balances, and now you are sure she is your wife.

A proposal also means you are now ready to proceed with the marriage plans after being convinced of your decision.

After a proposal the next item on the list should be to plan the wedding.

Any further studying, analysis , dialysis, arithmetic and geography you want to do on her should have to be a confirmation of all you have observed before the proposal, and that process should be in continua into your marriage.

Before a proposal is made you must have been double sure that your both parents are in agreement with your union. You must have been certain that your Pastors are in agreement and they have given their consent. Also your village people are in agreement, etc, for some of you who need approval from your chief priests and prophets, a.k.a who should I marry? Chioma or Cynthia?

After that assurance is received, then you can go ahead and propose to her.

But some matured babies won't do this.

Some men will propose blindly without any external assurance from the people that matter in his life and the life of Amaka.

This is why after the public proposal at the mall, sister Willberforce will wear one aboki ring for 3years because one parent disapproved, or there was a health incompatibility they ignored to check. etc.

6months to 8months is a good duration plan your glamorous wedding.  Extensions can happen when there are situations beyond your control as mentioned in some examples given above.

DON'T propose to a woman if you are not sure you have met the following criteria;

1. You have prayed about this and you have the FULL confidence of the Lord.

2. You have done all your compatibility analysis, topography checks and balances to be sure both of you are better fitted together.

3. You have received confidence and approval from all whom your marriage may concern.

4. You have the finances to host a wedding within your means in this duration.

5. You are matured enough to handle the demands and responsibilities that comes with becoming a husband, and you are ready for this assignment.

6. You must be sure this is the one. If you are torn between options, or you have doubts that your decision is being influenced by whatever sources, please put that ring in your pocket, drink chilled malt, and rest.

It's not a do or die.

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